Christmas is based around spending time with your family. Toy adverts are filling your screens and family are asking
‘When are you having children?’
It’s tough. Luckily for me, my family seems to be asking my mum who knows about our journey. She writes them off quickly with a ‘ohh not yet. They’re enjoying being on their own at the moment.’ It’s like a filter, a filter I’m currently very grateful for. I’m not so lucky at work where I’ve been told ‘you should make a baby over Christmas, it’s not hard.’ We’ve only been trying for 9 months and I know our journey has barely begun.
There are couples that have been trying for years and I will never be able to express how amazing they are or understand their strength.
Christmas day announcements are a whole other bundle of joy. Last year if I can remember correctly three couples announced their pregnancy. Out of those three… all three had been together for under a year and only one couple are currently still together. I’m honestly considering just subtly deleting my Facebook leading up to Christmas so I can stay in my own little bubble, but I’m unsure if I’d rather see them all at once in January or spread across the holiday. I’m happy for them, don’t get me wrong. Their children are now adorable but I am allowed to be a little bit jealous.
The main thing that’s keeping me going is this blog. Without it I’m going to truly admit I’d probably be sitting wallowing in self pity. I’m not saying you’d never find me in this situation. I took a few days off blogmas last week for this reason but for the majority of time I get to focus my energy on this little website. The other thing is the community I’ve met on Instagram. Everyone is so strong, and there is so much love.
If you’re on your own trying-to-conceive journey, how do you cope over the Christmas period? Do you have any tips or tricks to keeping positive?
It can be difficult but this amazing community does make it a lot easier.